Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 22:44 — 21.2MB), Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | Google Podcasts | Stitcher | Spotify | RSS | More. The love was there. And I believe that was my mistake. Earlier this year he went out of state for medical school. However we did go from October 2018 – October 2019 no sex, but she was pregnant and honestly it was not a big deal to me. Now he hates himself and is sick to his stomach every day and can’t keep food down because he knows he’s no better than those guys. Hoping our love only grows stronger from this point. Or if she was feeling too overwhelmed and on the verge of tears, and she couldn’t cry because she had to teach. Healing will happen if both people can own their part in this. Do I even want to salvage it? And no-one knew about their relationship. Forgiveness requires responsibility for those actions to be accepted also. He is devastatingly sorry and is blaming it on alcohol and saying its all a blur to him. However, lenient him means you are not considering him responsible for reimbursing an obligation that was paid on the cross by Jesus. Required fields are marked *. I dont know what to do and I’m going crazy in my mind. Defeating offense in marriage starts with me, and it begins at the cross, with absolution and effortlessness. Or has it been scared into submission, just for now. Even thou I believe him and since that day Aug. 15 we are closer than we’ve been in a long time. I would never let jealousy or suspicion enter our marriage but my wife had an affair which was exposed. She cheated on me (may have just been a one-time thing from having a need go unsatisfied) I’m so sorry this has happened to you…. It becomes all the more important to change the way you tell your story through these experiences. He would be there when I called her some nights, touching her as we were talking. For example, a good apology is usually needed for the victim of a betrayal to be able to forgive. We are only 21 so we both have some learning and growth to do and if its meant to be it’ll be right? What’s more likely to happen is that the relationship will be fertile ground for loneliness, resentment and bitterness, and it will stay vulnerable. Be kind to yourself and be patient. About two weeks later she came to me crying, saying she has something to tell me. I began friendly chatting with a guy there and it was only friendly in the beginning. The person he cheated with is a close co worker of mine. I founded out through a letter in his work journal, and pictures in a SD card. I would go from worry to anger to feeling extremely guilty. Sometimes I can shake it, and sometimes I find myself looking through forums to relate to people, as I don’t feel comfortable talking to anyone about it. If the person you had the affair with contacts you, let your partner know. She said at the time, I did not spend alot of time with her. Here are seven ways forgiveness can transform your marriage. When the need is an important one, letting go won’t be an option. And by taking those into account, you will start to renew the pleasant feelings of admiration and affection for them again. Every relationship has a make it or break it point. Here we are and recently he has started berating me about how I must have slept with him and that doesn’t make sense that I could talk and not sleep with him even though I didn’t.